Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Vulnerable
So I'm trying this new thing. It's called being vulnerable. For me this means working on not keeping people at a distance, not having to be perfect, trying even if I might fail, being able to connect. Your list might be different than mine. It might be the same. I still cringe at the word. My head zooms on auto pilot and connects vulnerability with weakness , which in turn is a direct link to BAD. Vulnerability may mean weak sometimes but weak most definitely doesn't mean bad. I think that's where we get it all mixed up. When you are vulnerable, Yes ,it opens you up to a lot more pain, and hurt and disappointment, (which you don't have to be attached to) But with that, brings in more joy, peace and fufillment from living an honest life.
Remember that... "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging".
Remember that... "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging".
Thursday, August 18, 2011
The four agreements
Hi . It's been awhile. So let me make it up to you...
Read Slowly, read sincerely ... Now do that again
1. Be impeccable with your word .
Become aware of your thoughts. Become aware of the feelings that follow. Find out if your thoughts are reality. Be honest, even unto vulnerability. " the word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think , and thereby to create the events in your life...your word can create te most beautiful dream, or destroy everything around you."
2. Don't take anything personally .
If someone you love insults you, if a stranger gossips about you, if someone intentionally harms you, intentionally hurts you , and any other situation of this nature...don't take it personally. What they say or do in reality has nothing to do with you. " when you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally , you avoid many upsets I your life. Your anger,jealousy , and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don't take things personally "
3. Don't make assumptions
We see the world as we are, not as it is. When we don't know, we assume. And then we defend our assumptions as if it were truth. Making assumptions can damper relationships, creates problems within ourselves, and in turn we suffer. "the way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure communication is clear. If you don't understand, ask. " be cautious that you don't already have your assumptions or opinions set as you ask questions. Ask to understand not to place your opinion.
4. Always do your best
No more and no less than your best. When you do your best you are not lazy, but rather put to action the wisdom you know. Focus on tasks individually and choose to do your best each moment, each task, each experience. "Keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality and other times it will not be as good."
Read Slowly, read sincerely ... Now do that again
1. Be impeccable with your word .
Become aware of your thoughts. Become aware of the feelings that follow. Find out if your thoughts are reality. Be honest, even unto vulnerability. " the word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think , and thereby to create the events in your life...your word can create te most beautiful dream, or destroy everything around you."
2. Don't take anything personally .
If someone you love insults you, if a stranger gossips about you, if someone intentionally harms you, intentionally hurts you , and any other situation of this nature...don't take it personally. What they say or do in reality has nothing to do with you. " when you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally , you avoid many upsets I your life. Your anger,jealousy , and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don't take things personally "
3. Don't make assumptions
We see the world as we are, not as it is. When we don't know, we assume. And then we defend our assumptions as if it were truth. Making assumptions can damper relationships, creates problems within ourselves, and in turn we suffer. "the way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure communication is clear. If you don't understand, ask. " be cautious that you don't already have your assumptions or opinions set as you ask questions. Ask to understand not to place your opinion.
4. Always do your best
No more and no less than your best. When you do your best you are not lazy, but rather put to action the wisdom you know. Focus on tasks individually and choose to do your best each moment, each task, each experience. "Keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality and other times it will not be as good."
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